A dating expert said she was having the best casual Sєx of her life until she did something that ruined it all.
Jana Hocking is known for opening up about love and Sєx, but she recently made a big confession.
She admitted to having had FWBs (friends with benefits) in the past and discussed the pros and cons.
Jana admitted she enjoys the company of someone who she has “little interest” in making her boyfriend.
She believes certain things make them successful – including avoiding sharing thoughts and feelings and not staying over each other’s houses.
The writer recalled one bloke she’d never even been on a date with, but she didn’t think there was any harm in having a little cheeky fun.
Writing for Femail, Jana said: “For full transparency, I was rebounding hard from a breakup, and he turned out to be the perfect distraction.
“He won’t mind me saying that, because he, too, is happy to keep it casual.
“One of us will simply message the other to see if they are home, and if so, we meet up for some nudie rudie time.
“This could be late on a Saturday night, or straight after work on a Tuesday. It’s simply when the mood strikes.”
Jana explained the spontaneity of the situation is what helps to make it fun – and it also helped prevent her from jumping into a new relationship.
She was able to have some space, while also enjoying herself, but she said there are major rules to making it work.
In a nutshell she said you should never form a bond with a FWB, as if you develop a connection it will only screw everything up.
Developing a crush can lead to all sorts of trouble, which is something she learnt during lockdown.
She got to know someone on social media at the time, which led to some raunchy messages being exchanged.
But one night he offered to stay over, and they ended up chatting for hours.
The pair bonded and, for a period, ended up practically joined at the hip for a while.
Then – when she started to mix with others again – things started to spiral.
“A girl he had been seeing interstate before lockdown came back into town, a guy I had been seeing at work was back within my 5km radius,” she added.
“Things were grand when life was on pause, but Sydney really sped back up again post-lockdown and we were left in a very ‘it’s complicated’ status.
“Safe to say, feelings got hurt, words were said, and sadly we really took the ‘friends’ out of FWB.”
Following her experiences, she said there are things to remember if you fancy bagging a FWB.
If you want it to work, Jana said it’s essential to follow the rules.
First up, ensure you both know it’s purely casual, and check in every now and then to make sure you’re still on the same page.
The Sєx may be amazing, but remember what you want and need.
She also said sleeping over is a big no-no, as it can lead to the pair of you bonding on another level.
And finally – keeping it light is the key to success.
Things must stay purely physical – don’t call them for support, don’t date and never seek comfort from them.
FWBs are meant to be all about Sєx, so only worry about what kind of orgasms you’re having.